If you live apart from each other in different countries, and the other fails to provide support for the children, how would the situation be addressed? What are your expectations of marriage? Have you ever performed Ummrah or Hajj? Or live together? 68. When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in a marriage? Of course, this is why it is so important to get married at a young age. 29. I have come to feel that this is one way where Islamic teachings are adaptable to a variety of ways of living and aren't wholly specific. Why prostitutes instead of a girlfriend? 83. In Islam, a man cannot marry two sisters at one time, but this does not mean that the wife's sister becomes maḥram to the husband, nor does it mean that the sister's husband becomes maḥram to the wife's sister. 5. I would say that although this is something confidential, and personal, for you to completely dismiss it and go ahead with the marriage, such a decision might have negative repercussions. We all know that people can be very deceiving to achieve whatever goals they have. It's also why we need to preserve our dignity and keep a good reputation. Are you willing to have intervention via an Imam, counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist if needed? 193. Who will take ownership of the home? After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public? Do you have friends from the opposite sex? Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... , Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. 167. Do you have any debts now? What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends? 189. Who would pay for the immigration procedure? Paying for company can be a way of avoiding the inconvenience of actually having a relationship. It is still haram for him to see her without hijab, or look at her with lust, or shake her hand, or be alone with her, and so on. Will your spouse be obligated to care (physically or financially) for the in-laws if they live with you? 123. I am interested in marrying a man who is pious and we are loyal and serious about each other. 145. 93. If so, by whom? What is your concept of an Islamic marriage? 72. 90. Do you have problems with the fact your spouse may or may not listen to music? Is it allowed for a married woman to discuss any details of her sex life with her husband with any female or male friends? What is your financial responsibility in a marriage? ً45. Long term and short term plans. 184. What is your view of the role of a wife? What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all of their grandparents? 40.What are your goals in life? 155. Is it permissible for my parents to cut off ties with my cousin if she ran away and got married against her family's wishes over a decade ago and the rest of her family has since forgiven her and re-established ties with her? What is the best method of raising children? (partial or full support) Explain. Are you seeking a polygamous marriage? We must always remember if we misuse any authority given to us, we will become oppressors and our punishment will be severe. What is the expectations or limitations on whom your parents will accept for you to marry? How will meals be prepared? 85. How do you express your admiration for someone that you know – now? Among these requirements are: 1. We are so worried and are wondering if there is any way for us to get married? What is your view of the role of a husband? It is highly recommended for there to be witnesses who are witnessing the ceremony, and can also sign any documentation the person conducting the nikah might issue. How long have you worked at current job? 127. 115. What will your relationship with them be like after marriage? If he's still reluctant, then neither he nor you should waste any more of your time. 152. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... , Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. 124. 186. What are your career goals (realistic and achievable)? If you don’t currently have a home for when you marry, when/where will you get one? How can the wife ensure she will get any deferred mahr that is owed to her? Do you believe in abortion in your family? Do you plan to quit? 28. To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children? 197. How will you manage this situation? © Ahlul Bayt Digital Islamic Library Project 1995-2020. , Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. 174. Anyone can get married in Islam, as long as they meet the correct requirements and obligatory conditions. Your wife has misunderstood the Islamic rule in this matter. Why would God punish or restrict a woman due to her paternal lineage to only allow her to marry a certain group of men, whereas other Muslim women are allowed to marry any Muslim man? He also obtained a PhD from... , Sheikh Mateen Joshua Charbonneau achieved a certificate from Harvard University in Islamic Studies. Unfortunately she is misinformed, and has only half of the facts correct. However, this is general advice, not related to one's lineage. 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Do you dress according to Islamic guidelines? 49. If you, or your spouse fell ill with a chronic illness, condition, or disability, how would you manage supporting the family in such situation? Similarly, with respect to tafsir, some people take the word "obedient" (qanitat, 4:34) to mean a woman obeying her husband, others take it to mean a woman obeying God. What would you consider causes serious enough for a divorce? 71. How would you expect your future spouse to dress? What if your spouse doesn’t follow the same dietary expectations about halal mentioned in the last question? Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage?